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Tuesday, October 10, 2017

Backup Plans: Sometimes family caregivers die before their patients.

 Pompilio, Natalie

doi: 10.1097/01.NNN.0000526570.00794.c9
Departments: For the Caregiver

CARING FOR DAD Kristen Beatty with her father, Ray Rider, after her mother, Susan, died. COURTESY KRISTEN BEATTY

Here's how to prepare for the worst-case scenario. 

When Kristen Beatty lost her mother suddenly in 2012, her grief was complicated by another challenge: how to care for her 74-year-old father, who has Alzheimer's disease. He'd been diagnosed 10 years earlier, and over the years her mother had become more than his caregiver: She was his gatekeeper, maintaining the privacy her retired Navy officer husband desired.

“We didn't know where our mom kept any of the information that might help us in taking care of our dad. We honestly didn't know how advanced the disease was and how paranoid and sleepless and restless he could be,” says Beatty, who lives in Centennial, CO. “All of those things were a revelation to us. Our mom had done such a good job managing it all.”
Beatty and her brother dug through filing cabinets in their parents' home in Aurora, CO, and searched their mother's cell phone contacts to come up with a list of their father's doctors. They searched for a list of computer passwords so they could do things like cancel their parents' vacation timeshare and see which bills were set to pay automatically. They had to find people who provided services like lawn care and snow removal. They had to hire paid help to come to their father's home every day.
“We didn't know where to go or what to do, and we were calling everyone and anyone for help,” Beatty recalls.

UNNATURAL ORDER

More than 65 million people—about 30 percent of the population—currently provide full- or part-time care for a friend or family member, according to 2009 figures from the National Alliance for Caregiving. But that number is inexact and could be much higher, says Lisa Winstel, chief operating officer of the Caregiver Action Network, a national nonprofit organization that provides resources for an estimated 90 million family caregivers. And as the nation ages, the number of caregivers will increase.
In the natural order of life, caregivers aren't supposed to die before patients. From the outside, the relationships are viewed as one healthy person taking care of another person who is chronically ill, disabled, or aging. The focus is on the patient's needs, which is why the sudden death of a caretaker can be so devastating for families and patients—even though it's well known that many caregivers tend to neglect their own physical and mental health, sometimes fatally. In fact, spousal caregivers ages 69 to 96 have a 63 percent higher mortality rate than noncaregivers in the same age group, according to the Family Caregiver Alliance.
Dig deeper and the statistics are even more concerning, says Winstel. In a survey conducted by the Family Caregiver Alliance, more than one in 10 family caregivers reported that caregiving had caused their physical health to deteriorate. Almost 72 percent of family caregivers said they don't see their own doctors as often as they should, and 55 percent said they skip their own medical appointments.
Still, many families are caught off guard when designated caregivers die. Because caregivers focus on the needs of others, they may not have created their own advance directive or living will. They may never have considered what would happen to their loved ones if they, the healthy ones, became incapacitated.

CAUGHT UNPREPARED

“We see families fall into disarray when tragedy strikes and a lot of things aren't pre-planned,” says David Y. Hwang, MD, assistant professor of neurology in the division of neurocritical care and emergency neurology at the Yale School of Medicine in New Haven, CT. “Dad's the one who knew all Mom's medications, all Mom's doctors, Mom's medical history. Families basically take it for granted that Dad knew what Mom needed. It's really tough for them to focus as they try to deal with the shock of what's happened.”

THINK AHEAD

Doctors and advocacy organizations are now urging caregivers and their families to think ahead and put careful plans in place in advance of the worst-case scenario. Organizations like the National Caregivers Library and the Alzheimer's Association offer online tools to guide caregivers through the legal, financial, and medical plans that need to be made.
“When I'm talking to a family and the spouse is the primary caretaker, I'll say, ‘That's great, but who's the backup?' That person needs to have power of attorney for legal or financial issues and be able to answer health care questions and make decisions,” says Ruth Drew, director of Family and Information Services for the Alzheimer's Association's national office in Chicago. “That person has to know where everything is: the will or the trust, the bank accounts, the insurance policies. You want to have these conversations when everyone's fine.”
For added security, assign more than one family member as a backup, advises Maisha Robinson, MD, assistant professor of neurology at the Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville, FL. “List at least two family members or loved ones on the health care surrogate and living will forms,” she advises. If, for example, the spouse is the only person listed on the advance directive and the spouse dies before the patient, the next of kin will be legally responsible for making medical decisions, a determination that is made according to individual state statutes, Dr. Robinson explains. “It is far better for patients to designate alternate health care surrogates and decision-makers; this will significantly reduce confusion if and when medical decisions need to be made for patients.”
While families may have made informal emergency plans—a son will take care of his dad if the mom dies, a daughter will manage the affairs of her mother if the father dies—writing things down and shoring up support from all involved is crucial, Drew says.
She also recommends families consult a lawyer, ideally one specializing in elder care and planning. Some are taken by surprise when they learn the costs of nursing homes and care facilities. They may be equally surprised when they learn which costs are covered by insurance, if there is any, and what steps they need to take to receive government assistance.
“Even when everybody in the family has the best intentions, they don't always agree on what the right thing to do is,” Drew says. “If one person has been given power of attorney and makes a decision others in the family don't agree with, that can have major negative repercussions.”
HAPPY DAYS Kristen Beatty on her wedding day in 2004 with her parents, Ray and Susan. COURTESY KRISTEN BEATTY

BE PROACTIVE

After seeing some of his patients unsettled by the death of caregivers, Jason H. Karlawish, MD, professor of medicine in the geriatrics division at the University of Pennsylvania's Perelman School of Medicine, decided to change the way he talks to patients. During an initial visit, he'll find out if patients have authorized anyone to make decisions for them if they become incapacitated. Once he determines who the primary caretaker is, he'll encourage families to make backup plans, especially if the caregiver is a spouse.
“I've seen patients thrown into unsettling family situations where the spouse dies and the adult children can't agree on who is caregiver number one and number two,” he says. “After enough of those experiences, I'm more and more sensitive to it, and I've become proactive.”
Dr. Karlawish often finds that family members have different perceptions of a patient's needs, sometimes because they have different levels of information about the patient's illness. Why can't she live alone? Why can't she go to adult day care? “I hear how children fight over what to do,” he says. “Don't wait for a problem [to make these plans].”
During conversations with patients, Dr. Karlawish will ask what they plan to do if their primary caregiver dies. Who will they turn to? Then he'll suggest they contact that far-away sibling or close friend and ensure he or she is on the same page.
“As physicians, we're not trained to think deeply about social structure and family beyond the immediate needs of the patients. But you have to think about that, especially with Alzheimer's disease,” Dr. Karlawish says. “It's about engaging and empowering families.”

SHARE THE LOAD

Some caregivers resist these conversations. Penelope D. Zeifert, PhD, clinical professor in neurology and neurological sciences at Stanford University School of Medicine in Palo Alto, CA, recently met with a patient in her eighties who has memory problems. The woman cares for her husband around the clock and told Dr. Zeifert that she didn't want to go to great lengths to find the cause of her own problems.
“She was anxious and said, ‘No, I don't want any feedback,'” Dr. Zeifert says. “She has a son, but I don't think he has any clue that she's having difficulty. People often try to protect their family members.”
Ann Emiko Igarashi Boylan, 66, has Parkinson's disease. William, her husband of 39 years, is now in his 80s and has heart problems. Recently, Boylan has made a point to include their two adult sons in their health care journey. Currently, the California couple acts as caregivers to one another as needed, like when William had a heart valve replacement operation.
“We have to deal with the idea of aging in partnership,” says Boylan, who is also an advocate for the Parkinson's Foundation, representing the New York–based nonprofit at events and educating others about the disease. “We have think in terms of what's going to happen down the road.”

GET ORGANIZED

A FAMILY AFFAIR Ann Emiko Igarashi Boylan has Parkinson's disease, and her husband has heart problems, so she's involving their two sons in her and her husband's end-of-life plans. CHRIS JORDA PHOTOGRAPHY

Boylan maintains a health journal for the two of them because “even if the dosage is on the bottle, it's good to have it all in one place,” she says. They've also talked about selling their home and downsizing while still staying within a quick drive of their sons' homes. Each has an advance directive and a living trust.
“These documents speed up treatment and describe the kind of care you'd like to receive if you get into a situation where you can't communicate,” she says. “It can be as simple as ‘I want to be able to look out and see nature,' or ‘I want people to visit me and talk or pray or play certain kinds of music.' I don't like to have an oxygen mask covering my full face, so I wrote that down, too.”
In many ways, Boylan says, she feels healthier now than she has in years. Her tremors seem to be under control, she exercises regularly, and she enjoys going out with friends and reading. She has taken advantage of her stable health to take care of those “just in case” details that she might otherwise have avoided.
“It involves asking questions, a lot of what ifs, but it's not a negative thing. I stay calm and work through it,” she says.

MAKE A PLAN

Kristen Beatty and her brother managed to resume care for their father after their mother's death because their parents kept their medical records in filing cabinets and had a small black book listing all of their passwords. While they still had to search for information, there were easily identifiable places to start.
Beatty's father is now living in an assisted care facility. The siblings have a strong relationship and have roughly divided their father's ongoing care. She handles the health side of things, while her brother manages the money, bills, and investments. “We also have plans in place for ourselves so that if something happens to us, we don't leave our families in a bind,” she says.
Beatty's advice for other families: Have an end-of-life plan that includes everything from thoughts on “Do not resuscitate” orders to preferred funeral songs. Not everyone has to know the details at all times, she adds.
“You don't have to read it or know it all, but have it all documented so you can pass it on,” she says. “It could be a website. It could be a manila envelope with medical papers. Just let someone know where it is.”

5 Ways to Prepare for the Worst



1. Plan ahead whenever possible. Involve all members of the patient's support network. Make sure that advance directives, living wills and last wills, and other important documents are completed and kept in a known location. Be open, honest, and realistic about end-of-life wishes and goals.

2. Review current and projected finances. Look at living costs and assets, including existing insurance, to see what changes might be necessary to ensure care.

3. Have a plan, then create a backup plan. Hope for the best but prepare for the worst. That means knowing what your family will do if the primary caregiver dies before the patient.

4. Make use of free services online. Life Happens (http://lifehappens.org) is a nonprofit organization that provides information on insurance-related topics. The Alzheimer's Association also has a tool at http://bit.ly/Alz-EndOfLife that guides users through important end-of-life issues.

5. If possible, work with a professional. Seek out an attorney, insurance agent, financial advisor, or elder care professional to help with the planning. Legal aid is available for those who can't afford the cost of a private attorney.
© 2017 American Academy of Neurology
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